I was on the phone with my mother earlier and we spoke about being alone. My father passed away when I was 16, so it’s just been my sister and mother ever since I left the house for college at the age of 18. Anyways, just like me, my mother is content with being by herself. More than content, but she’s happy. Not happy over the fact that she lost my father, but just happy with the fact that she is able to still maintain and be stable on her own. Physically and emotionally. Freedom. Independence. More time to focus on herself and enjoy her life. She told me that the relationship she had with my father was a beautiful one. It was a beautiful one because they both were independent on their own. They both didn’t hold each other back from anything. My father didn’t trap her physically or emotionally, and vice-versa. They both did their own thing, but at the same time, were there for each other. My mother said if anything, they were like best friends. And honestly, I think friendship is the best foundation for love. So even though they both had their own freedom, they still had each other at the end of the night. They weren’t together to seek satisfaction for loneliness, but rather, they were together because they were happy with being together. Rather than seeking to gain something from one another, they both just gave to each other. I think that’s real important for a healthy relationship. My parents being independent on their own definitely helped me become independent on my own. I think it would be nice to be with someone who has their own thing going on. Someone who knows how to stand on their own, as well. Because if we were together, we could help each other simply flourish. I think that’s key. I believe that a relationship should be about helping each other grow in life, and as a person. And at the same time, maybe the love will grow, too.
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